Many people start putting time and effort into their marriage after something has started to go wrong. As men, we usually don’t realize something is going wrong until it is REALLY going wrong. At that point, the risk is extremely high that you will lose your spouse emotionally, physically, spiritually, and possibly to divorce. The predominant trend is for relationships to start out with passion and desire and it is easy to date and pursue your mate. As the years go by, children, careers, and a plethora of other things distract you from taking your marriage as seriously as you ought to take it. Whether your marriage is shaky or great, now is the time to actively reinforce it and be the husband you know you need to be.
An excellent place to start is by reading The 5 Love Languages For Men. This book is simple, practical, and effective. It also shows you how to identify what matters most to your wife and specifically how to use that knowledge to deepen your marriage. There are numerous step-by-step guides and very detailed actions that you can take to strengthen your relationship. Aside from the lists and guides, you can extract many great quotes and use them throughout your day. Here is one sentence from Gary Chapman that caught my attention, “The right words, spoken at the right time by the right person, can inspire people to do the unlikely, the improbable, and in some cases, the near impossible.” Many husbands tend to be selfish and get what they can out of their marriage, but when you give more of yourself is when you end up getting the most.
There are many resources related to strengthening your marriage, but this book is a great place to start. You could read it a few times a year and continue to get more out of it and apply it to situations you are facing at the moment. Again, there is no better time to invest in your marriage than right now.
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One lucky SIMPLE reader is going to win a copy of Five Love Languages for Men from Dr Gary Chapman. Here’s how to enter:
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March 5, 2015 at 11:40 pmThrough words, presence and actions!
Buddy Garrett
March 5, 2015 at 11:26 pmI show her love by treating her like a queen.
John Herman
March 5, 2015 at 6:19 pmI tell her that I love her everyday! I also like to help her out with whatever she needs.
John Herman
March 5, 2015 at 6:17 pmI tell her that I love her everyday!
Jennifer Herman
March 5, 2015 at 5:19 pmI listen and shared things with him everyday.
misti
March 5, 2015 at 4:09 pmI continually work on improving myself, my patience, my communication style and my weaknesses
Autumn B
March 5, 2015 at 11:32 amLots of physical affection!
Theresa Smith
March 4, 2015 at 5:18 pmI put is needs before my own every day.
Ed
March 4, 2015 at 11:46 amCupcakes and foot massages!
Danalee Davis
March 4, 2015 at 1:48 amI make my husband his lunches for work. Even when I am so, so tired.
Kimberlie
March 3, 2015 at 10:40 pmWe spend lots of time together. And he loves it when I cook for him.
Leela
March 3, 2015 at 5:07 amDoing special things for him.
Becky Moore
March 1, 2015 at 2:08 pmI do special things and make sure he knows he is appreciated
DanielM
February 27, 2015 at 7:45 pmlots of surprise gifts and doing things for her
Nancy
February 26, 2015 at 5:04 pmI like to surprise him with special treats.
deanna
February 26, 2015 at 3:31 pmI give him hugs and leave him little surprises.
Brittney House
February 25, 2015 at 11:00 pmI show him through actions and words.
Racquel S
February 24, 2015 at 11:38 amI make him dinner every night, make sure he has clean and pressed clothes for work, and other little things that I know he likes!
Em Mahr
February 23, 2015 at 7:51 amI show my spouse love by telling him that I love him and doing things for him that I knwo he hates, like the laundry, vacuuming, etc.
Christine
February 22, 2015 at 6:57 pmI give him back massages.
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Terra Heck
February 22, 2015 at 7:04 amI show my spouse love by telling him I love him several times throughout the day. I also clean up his messes around the house without complaint and I hold hands with him often. Thanks.
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Amanda Alvarado
February 19, 2015 at 11:27 pmI do little things for him and kiss and hug him a lot and tell him I love him several times a day!
Jessica Beard
February 19, 2015 at 7:22 pmI give him a back rub every night. I also make him dinner.
Candice Balser
February 19, 2015 at 6:02 pmI show love by doing little things like making a favorite dinner.
jennifer
February 19, 2015 at 5:41 pmI say it! and put my spouse’s needs before mine.
ken ohl
February 19, 2015 at 5:27 pmI try to show it in actions as well as words everyday not just special occasions. thankyou, ken
Patricia
February 19, 2015 at 4:22 pmI like to send him notes in his lunch.
Nicole Vosburgh
February 19, 2015 at 4:14 pmI love surprising my husband with little gifts!
Brittany Millsaps
February 19, 2015 at 3:46 pmBy trying to do nice things for him
Holly Kennedy
February 19, 2015 at 10:45 amI make him red velvet cupcakes.
Laura
February 19, 2015 at 10:38 amWe’ve committed to truly listen to each other. Every day. It’s something we feel that we both really need (to be heard), and so we take great joy it doing it for each other.